Hey. That sounds so empty after all that we have been through. We have been reduced to a mere word uttered with such trepidation and grief. A word that was once so familiar has become so tarnished by panic. In a word, love has been replaced with hey. Hey. It is what you say when you…
Category: Friendship
The human condition
Nine years ago my friend died. There really isn’t a nicer way to say it. She has been gone longer now than the number of years I got to spend time with her. She believed in me in ways no one else did. She asked the questions that I had desperately needed someone to ask….
“In order to be a mentor, and an effective one, one must care. You must care. You don’t have to know how many square miles are in Idaho, you don’t need to know what is the chemical makeup of chemistry, or of blood or water. Know what you know and care about the person, care…
Things I wish my middle-schoolers knew…
The church and I only have them, on average, four hours a week. That leaves one hundred and sixty eight hours for someone, or something, else to fill. Weekly: 4 versus 168. Monthly: 16 versus 672. Yearly: 208 versus 8,736. The enormity of that difference is frightening. Who or what is filling those hours? The…
Tribe
I love the idea of a tribe. A squad. A group. A posse. A pack. Whatever you want to call it. I call mine a tribe because the word means something to me; I feel it in my bones. My tribe has certainly changed throughout the years. It has shrunk, it has grown, it has…
It’s a new year…
Resolution. I like that word. Some words are powerful and this is one of English’s more fascinating, compelling words. Like many words in English, the word resolution can mean different things, depending on the context. It can mean a firm decision to do or not to do something. Intention. Resolve. Plan. 2. It can also…
Before it’s too late
I am ‘Words of Affirmations’ all the way to the core of my soul. (Take the General test right here to see what you are.) It is how I both best receive and show love. However, knowing that does not make it easier to do so. I have always had trouble receiving love from people, but I…
Where does the love go?
As we enter the holiday season, I have decided to share some of my old poetry on this site. We all have those friendships and relationships that dissolve over time. Sometimes there is an argument that ends the relationship, other times it just ceases in one way or another. For some people the ending is…
An open letter to any wedding party…
Weddings are generally viewed as celebrations of a new beginning, but a striking statistic shows that they are also the end for some relationships that are put on the back burner before, during, and after a wedding. A wedding is certainly the proclamation of a husband and wife vowing to spend forever together. For women,…
Lost
“You were there in the background of my dream. You were zipping your coat up and I noticed that you were having trouble. I watched you struggle until you got it. Then you walked out the door into the freezing cold outside. You never saw me in my dream. I just saw you. In my…