“In order to be a mentor, and an effective one, one must care. You must care. You don’t have to know how many square miles are in Idaho, you don’t need to know what is the chemical makeup of chemistry, or of blood or water. Know what you know and care about the person, care…
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But, but, but my child…
“My child would never do that!” Been there. Actually having a child and being in the trenches raising said child will make you a liar. A big, fat liar. Of course the definition of “that” evolves over the years. At first “that” is a pacifier that your future child will never become dependent on. “That” will…
Forgiveness is not for the weak
I forgive you. I do. I do not believe you will accept that forgiveness, but it is there regardless. Forgiveness is not for you. It is for me. It is for my heart. For my heart to move on. For my hands to metaphorically release your hands from my neck and to also let go of…
Grief looks different…
Where would I be if I did not begin this post with a scene straight out of Grey’s Anatomy?.. “Lexie: [narrating] Grief may be a thing we all have in common, but it looks different on everyone.Mark: It isn’t just death we have to grieve. It’s life. It’s loss. It’s change. Alex: And when we…
Don’t say nothing
“Don’t say nothing!” Jen Hatmaker wrote a post on her social media and one of my friends shared it. I glanced through it and the more I read, the more I hurt. There are people, faith professing followers of Christ who embodies love, saying nothing at all. Is saying nothing worse than what some of…
Things I wish my middle-schoolers knew…
The church and I only have them, on average, four hours a week. That leaves one hundred and sixty eight hours for someone, or something, else to fill. Weekly: 4 versus 168. Monthly: 16 versus 672. Yearly: 208 versus 8,736. The enormity of that difference is frightening. Who or what is filling those hours? The…
Tribe
I love the idea of a tribe. A squad. A group. A posse. A pack. Whatever you want to call it. I call mine a tribe because the word means something to me; I feel it in my bones. My tribe has certainly changed throughout the years. It has shrunk, it has grown, it has…
Pieces of September
My beautiful sister spent some time at the 9/11 Memorial and Museum this past weekend and I believe her life is forever changed because of it. After hearing her reminisce about her journey of grief on that hallowed ground, I began to think of my own memories of that fateful day. I was thirteen years…
It’s a new year…
Resolution. I like that word. Some words are powerful and this is one of English’s more fascinating, compelling words. Like many words in English, the word resolution can mean different things, depending on the context. It can mean a firm decision to do or not to do something. Intention. Resolve. Plan. 2. It can also…
Sin
“It can come dressed in white lily lace, Wrapped with the golden bow of solid treasure. There is but one key to the lock That seals Pandora’s box. It whispers beautiful music That causes you to dance wildly, Taking you back to a time Where you felt most alive. So you invite it in… You…